4 Days.. 6 Years.. Who cares??

The big talk these past days here in Norway has been about blogger Caroline Berg Eriksen’s post on instagram. She posted this picture four days after giving birth to her first child:

I didn’t really think much about it other than being slightly surprised thinking back to how my body looked four days after I gave birth to Leander.
Then the reactions came in huge waves. The media picked up on it and it really has gotten way more attention than necessarybfl from my point of view.
Some congratulate her on being fit and healthy throughout the pregnancy and others are screaming louder than ever about her being a bad rolemodel for young girls.

So what do I think?
I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to write about this at all, but as the double standard from all the screamers just grew and grew, I couldn’t just let this pass.

Why is it that when a curvy woman shows off her body she is considered confident, beautiful and a good role model, but when someone who is naturally skinny and not having any eating disorder does the same thing then people start screaming about it being wrong??

I know several girls who are naturally skinny like she is. They don’t have eating disorders, they exercise to keep healthy and they eat healthy because they care about what they put into their bodies. Why is this suddenly a bad role model? Just because we think about the catwalk models when we see them?

I write a lot about having confidence in our selves and to love the body that we live in. And this does apply to skinny people as well curvy ones. There aren’t any restrictions to this! The important thing is to take care of your own body and to find that confidence within you.

Is there bad role models for young girls out there? Hell yes!
Is Caroline one of them? Not really..
Bodies are different. People are different. And from what I’ve seen of her blog and read about her she seems like an active and healthy person. And she also has a certain body type and genes to follow that makes her naturally skinny. So why shouldn’t she be able to be proud of her body just as much as a curvy woman??

Do you see the double standard here??!?

So why do we fuzz and scream about this?? How about focusing on ourselves instead of pointing our fingers at everyone and everything else. Let us love the body that we’re in, focus on being healthy but also enjoying life and to share our good thoughts and compliments with other people.


My body, six years after giving birth.
What’s the point?
Four days? Six years? The point is that there really isn’t any reason to scream and shout about it. It’s just a body! Let us love the one we got and accept others as well.

Stop the double standard! Be proud of your body!

Look At You!

Look at you!

You sit there with your hair put up

And that sparkly dress.


Look at you!

With those ragged jeans

And hair like a mess.


Look at you!

With smokey eyes

And that short skirt.


Look at you!

All dressed up in a new suit

And flowers all over your shirt.


Look at you!

In a colorful bikini

With that curvy body.


Look at you!

All naked

And feeling oh so cocky.


Look at you!

With that big grin

And a scar on your face.

Look at you!

Lying there waiting,

Feeling sexy in lace.


Look at you!

In sweatpants

And a tiny shy smile.


Look at you!

With that hat

And classy style.


Look at me!

I see you everywhere I go

I see you

And I’m not even sure you know.


Look at me!

I see that unique beauty that you carry.

Has no one told you? Then let me be the first to say sorry!


Because LOOK at you!

Human as you are, you’re beauty in every way.

If someone tells you differently, don’t ever listen to what they say.


Look at you!

Really look and remember these words I’m about to say.

You are the definition of beauty

No matter what you wear, your color or how much you weigh.


Look at you!


©Christina de Vries – Geek Heaven

Poetry Geek Crush

Yes! I do have a tiny poetry geek crush on Mark Grist. Thank you very much Alex 😛

And the consequence of that is that I’m sharing a little more from this talented poet with you guys.

This is a presentation from The Inspired Word, Thursday Nov. 10, 2011:

And the amazing Tie Poem:

And finally (and maybe even most importantly) Free Speech:

I hope you’ve enjoyed them as much as I have!



You can follow Mark Grist on Twitter too:

Girls Who Read

I love it when I get introduced to new poets and poetry channels. This time it was my friend Alex who shared the poem “Girls Who Read” by Mark Grist in collaboration with Roundhouse London.

Call me sentimental, but this poem brought happy tears and a warm feelings that reminded of a tiny high school crush when I first heard the words that came out of the mouth of Mark Grist. I’ve been in relationships with men who doesn’t read and after some trials and fails I’ve come to understand that the fact that they don’t appreciate the written word is such a big factor that isn’t compatible with my life and my passion. I want to be able to share what I love with someone who can understand it. And to hear the words of this man really reminded me of just that!

Now I can’t get enough of this video and this poem!

Thank you for sharing this with me Alex!

And now I’m sharing it with you guys! Enjoy!

My Father’s Day Present – Better Late Than Never

Father’s day in Norway came and went this last Sunday and I really wanted to make something special to my father. Failing to getting it done in time I could only greet him on the exact day, but now I’m posting my poem of a present for him here! I love you Dad! 


My Dad


When I was little he was my hero with an invisible cape

With stories in books we would together escape

He taught me the joy in words written down

He was my teacher but also my clown


We traveled a lot him and me

He showed me how fun exploring could be

We didn’t always agree even though he wanted my best

And at times I didn’t make him all that impressed


After my teens I so wanted to make it on my own

Not realizing that I didn’t have to do everything alone

For long I thought asking for help was the same as to fail

Like having a ship but not a single sail


Now I know that asking is not giving up

Maybe that is what they call growing up

Now I know that if I’m struggling or sad

I can always go and talk to my dad


It took some growing up to see

That we weren’t so different him and me

But still I don’t say this as often as I should do;

Dad, I hope you know how much I love you!


 ©Christina de Vries – Geek Heaven



Prove Them Wrong

Prove Them Wrong


At some point people will make you ask why

When they hurt your heart and make you cry

That is the time when you have to try


Close your eyes and slowly rewind

Change the default settings of your mind

Prepare yourself to be amazed of what you might find


Turn your tears into smiles

You can throw away those dusty, old files

You’ve already made it through those trials


Allow yourself to let it go

Be thankful for all it made you know

Appreciate how it made you grow


Take that old pain and make it into something new

And in it all your beauty will shine through

In it they will see the amazing you


Embrace all the challenges you’ve ever met

Don’t look back with any regret

Tell the world; You haven’t seen the best of me yet!


Be thankful for all of the pain

Be grateful for what it made you gain

Don’t let that hurt be all in vain


Say it out loud with the biggest glee:

“I am not vengeful. I set you free.

Thank you so much for inspiring me!”


By this you have proved them all wrong

They thought they were the ones who were strong

But the truth is it was you all along

Christina de Vries

©Christina de Vries – Geek Heaven