Don’t Sit Around Waiting

Nothing exciting ever happens to the ones who just sit around waiting for life to start. I see (and hear) way too many people who complain about wanting more, about being bored and missing that certain someone to come into their lives.

We all have those moments where we wish that things could be a little bit different, but there’s one thing to wish and pursue, a whole other thing to sit around and think that the things that will make your dreams come true will just come knocking at your door. It (or they) won’t, I can promise you that.

To be able to attract the things you love, and the people that you come to love, you first have to practice self-love. You have to radiate the energy of what you want to have in your life. Get out there, explore, learn new things, surround yourself with inspiring people and places!

You have to fall in love with yourself and your life (flaws and all) to ever truly be able to invite someone else in to do the same.

Do not sit around and wait for life to happen! It’s happening right now, this very second, and if you sit around waiting for it to hit it, you’re going to miss it! Every second is so valuable, and so unreplaceable. You can never get it back!

Don’t let life pass you by ❤️

Why Are We Here Again?

We live in a world where THIS has become the new normal.

We go through everyday life, looking at real-life monsters on screens, and the more we see them, the number we feel.

Numbers upon numbers, that feels unreal to think of as lives lost. Futures that will never come to be. They are names whispered in the wind, stories that were only half told, and smiles that are now nothing but memories.

They are children that should’ve never seen this kind of cruelty. They are the adults that should’ve never had to act like human shields. They are lives that were taken unfairly. Family and friends are left behind with wounds that will never completely heal.

Our reality is now one where kids don’t feel safe in the house where they should be learning without fear. Our reality is now one where one broken soul will grab a gun and a deathwish instead of reaching out for help.

Once again, we are gathered here, although we are scattered around the whole globe. Together we watch another tragedy unfold.

We’re all asking each other why we are here yet again. Wishing for something better, but feeling helpless, but still fighting. Never giving up!

And even though I’m far away from Santa Fe, my heart still aches and breaks.

Why are we here again? It’s about time we stop meeting like this.

My thoughts go out to everyone who’s hurting❤️

 

Let’s Talk About Changes

Or rather the constant change in our bodies. I’ve gone through some ups and downs when it comes to weight. I went through pregnancy at age 19, and a whole lot of changes happen through that time, and for a while after as well. I’ve had periods of time where I’ve been quite fit, and then some when I have been “just slim”.

It’s a weird thing how we look at ourselves so differently through our changes, but also how we perceive ourselves through the the changes in our lives. If I’m having a shitty day, I very rarely look at myself in the mirror and think “But damn! At least I look good!”

Our moods and our feelings shines through with our body language. And it never fails that the days where I feel good and grateful, those are the days where the unexpected compliments suddenly make their appearances.

I’ve been noticing a few new changes in my body over the last weeks, mostly because I’ve been focusing on taking better care of both my body and my mind. And I think it’s important to think about how removing toxic elements from your life can make just as much of a difference to your confidence as removing the toxic food that will show healthy changes in your body.

To be clear, I’m not talking about dieting. I’m talking about being mindful about what you put into your body.

Our bodies and our minds are so fascinating and wonderful in so many ways. It’s about time we started to treat both as they deserve. And I know it’s not always easy. Toxic elements have a funny way of sneaking up on us and hang around for way longer than we should’ve allowed them. But the more we focus on body positivity, healthy lifestyle and making good changes, the easier it will be to love yourself and to make good choices!

Love your body and your mind enough to take good care of both, and be mindful through the changes ❤️

#TATuesday – Where I Go to Think in Oslo

The Sound of Water ● POEM

There’s something about it

The sound of water

Waves rolling

Fountains dancing

Boats dipping 

Ripples moving

Something that warms 

That feels like home

And never fails 

To make me smile

☼

©Christina de Vries

 

They Don’t Get to Decide This!

Throughout our lives, we will meet selfish people and invite them into our lives before they show their true self. People who think that everything revolves around them. That the spotlight shines for them, and them alone. People who think that they can dance their way into your life whenever it suits them, stomp all over your heart, leave again, and then suddenly pop up again when it’s most convenient for them, taking no consideration as to how that fits into your life.

Why do we let them? Because we care about them. We care and love them so much more than they probably deserve. That is why it’s so hard to let go. That is why we hold on to the point where it strangles us instead of them.

I’ve been through that a couple of times in my life, and even though it’s shitty to go through no matter how many times you have to do it, it gets easier somehow. It’s easier to see through all of the bullshit. You might still give them the benefit of the doubt, but still a bit more cautiously than before.

It’s totally fine to be protective of your heart. Let the selfish ones teach you what to look for, but don’t let their mistakes make you close off to love.

You are worthy of all the love and respect! Don’t let the selfish ones decide who you spend time on. Don’t let them in if they don’t have good intentions. Don’t share your spotlight if they don’t have enough space in theirs for you. Letting go can be so hard to do, but it’s okay for you to be selfish when comes to cutting negativity out of your life, and protecting your heart!

Love yourself enough to know when it’s time to move on, and don’t beat yourself up for not having done so sooner. It changes nothing, and it’s not worth your time or your energy❤️

Your heart and your soul deserves better ❤️

Love you guys❤️

 

March and April 2018 – Wrap Up

#TATuesday 3 – I Went Through the Snow

Just a Reminder

I’m swamped with editing and way behind on my creative schedule, so today I just want to give you lovelies a little reminder of loving yourself, and to know that your time is so valuable! Don’t waste it on drama and people that hold you back and down ❤️

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To My Best Friend!

I know that the topic of my friends is one that keeps reappearing here on this blog. The thing is that no matter how many times I write about it or talk about, I still end up in awe whenever I think about how lucky I am to have the wonderful friends that I do in my life. So in my place of utter gratitude, I refuse to apologize for this recurring subject. I think it’s one that’s so important, and definitely worth every single post of love❤️

I’ve written about the wonderful women in my life, about how I see my girlfriends as my soulmates, and about the love that I feel in all of my friendships. I am so freaking lucky to be able to write about these things that makes me into a big ball of warm fluff! There’s just so much love!

Yesterday we had a girl’s night (Kirsti, Kaya, Helene and me) and it was so nice to be all of us together for the first time in what seems like forever!

After many hours of conversations, wonderful food, drinks, and games, we finally crawled to bed at around 3 am with smiles on our faces. Kirsti and I shared a bed, and we ended up just lying there, talking for a little while after the lights were turned off. Eventually, Kirsti drifted off to sleep, but I lay awake for a little while, reminded of how we’ve been doing this for over 20 years now. All the sleepovers, the parties, the problems, the celebrations, the breakups, the dancing, the crying, the laughing, the hours and hours of conversations, and all of the love. It’s not the first time that thinking about this has blown me away, but it still hits me just hard every time.

I feel so grateful and lucky for all of my friends, but there’s something so utterly unique and special about our friendship.

Kirsti, you are my rock and I love you to the moon and back!

Noone can ever replace you, and no friendship will ever be just like ours❤️