They Don’t Get to Decide This!

Throughout our lives, we will meet selfish people and invite them into our lives before they show their true self. People who think that everything revolves around them. That the spotlight shines for them, and them alone. People who think that they can dance their way into your life whenever it suits them, stomp all over your heart, leave again, and then suddenly pop up again when it’s most convenient for them, taking no consideration as to how that fits into your life.

Why do we let them? Because we care about them. We care and love them so much more than they probably deserve. That is why it’s so hard to let go. That is why we hold on to the point where it strangles us instead of them.

I’ve been through that a couple of times in my life, and even though it’s shitty to go through no matter how many times you have to do it, it gets easier somehow. It’s easier to see through all of the bullshit. You might still give them the benefit of the doubt, but still a bit more cautiously than before.

It’s totally fine to be protective of your heart. Let the selfish ones teach you what to look for, but don’t let their mistakes make you close off to love.

You are worthy of all the love and respect! Don’t let the selfish ones decide who you spend time on. Don’t let them in if they don’t have good intentions. Don’t share your spotlight if they don’t have enough space in theirs for you. Letting go can be so hard to do, but it’s okay for you to be selfish when comes to cutting negativity out of your life, and protecting your heart!

Love yourself enough to know when it’s time to move on, and don’t beat yourself up for not having done so sooner. It changes nothing, and it’s not worth your time or your energy❤️

Your heart and your soul deserves better ❤️

Love you guys❤️


  One thought on “They Don’t Get to Decide This!

  1. May 16, 2018 at 22:30

    Loved this! Loving yourself is SO key. It’s crazy how at different stages in life we become so immersed in our “love” for another person, who may or may not provide that love in return, at the expense of our own self-love. And it really doesn’t stop at self-love. I’ve come to learn firsthand that on top of self-love, the people we love have to love themselves for the entire situation to work. At least that’s what I believe.

    I’ve loved someone who was terrible at loving me and if you asked me at that time why I would have told you it’s my fault. It’s me. I’m what’s wrong. I don’t deserve this person, etc. It took me quite awhile to focus on myself and with that focus I realized that this person had zero self-love. How can you love someone when you don’t love yourself? How can you even receive another person’s love when you have none for you?

    I also learned a lot about myself during this time when all i did was blame myself and beat myself up..which in turn caused me to love this person even harder. It was like…”i love you so much I will do/say/give anything to prove myself including love myself less so that you feel more loved.” This is NOT the way to live or love. Instead of working on loving myself I so freely invested all of my energy into someone else because in the thick of the entire mess–loving someone else is so much easier than dealing with your own lack of self-love.

    This is a convo we’ll have to have in person eventually 🙂

  2. ever smile
    October 26, 2018 at 19:50

    Nice article

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