An Off Day

We all have them. I don’t get them that often, but today is one of them.

I consider myself quite the happy, grateful and positive person, but sometimes the negativity of the world will overwhelm me to the point where I just have to take a break.

I’ve found through the years that being a positive person in a negative world (at times) can be very draining and challenging. I wouldn’t want to be any other way, because life is too short to not try to make the best out of it, to not try our best to have a positive outlook on our future, to not work for a brighter and better future. Even so, being a positive and creative soul is hard at times. Being a romantic is even harder. And brushing off all the negativity that people carelessly throw around can feel impossible. So some days I find myself so completely numb and overwhelmed. My thoughts and ideas are working overdrive. My energy just falls apart and I can’t seem to create anything, even though I have a head full of ideas and plans.

This doesn’t happen too often, and I tend to isolate myself a bit whenever it does. Why? Maybe because I feel like it’s not really a good representation of the person that I am most of the time. Then again, this is a part of me, and I shouldn’t be holding that back.

How do I get out of it? Well, over the years I’ve found what works for me. When I feel the off day is getting a hold of me, I usually take a break. I lock the door, turn off the lights, pour myself a couple of glasses of Laphroaig or tea (depending on what I feel like having), I write, I listen to music, I cry, and I get a good nights sleep. Usually, that’s the reboot that I need, and the next morning, everything just feels a little bit better and back to normal.

So to all of you that are having an off day today, I just want you to know that you’re not alone. It happens to all of us, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Take the time that you need to get back on track. It’s totally okay to not be okay all of the time ❤️

 

Make the Choice!

Life will feel like it’s screwing you over at times. Out of nowhere, the shit that you had no idea was midair will hit that fan and you won’t be able to duck away from the shitstorm! In those moments, you have a choice. You can sit there, covered in all of the shit and sulk…. OR you can scream a little and then use your frustration and turn it into motivation.

A few days ago I got a bit of a shitty surprise that came out of nowhere, and it made me sad and angry. What exactly happened is not really important, and I won’t get into any details here. But after being a bit shocked, and then trying to make sense of it, I decided to turn it all into action. I chose to write about it, to plan new stories and films. I turned my tears and my anger into motivation. A drive to growth and moving way beyond. To not focus on the hurt, but still be mindful of it. To let my creativity work with the senseless. Because the fact of the matter is this; Life is too short to spend a lot of time and energy on the people or the actions that pull you down.

I choose to walk out with a smile, and to keep doing what I love most! We can all make the choice to see the positive of a shitty situation. It can be hard as hell though, I know! But it’s so worth it❤️

Staying positive and grateful can be really challenging at times. I’m not even going to try to say that I manage to do so every day. I have days where staying strong for too long gets to me and I will isolate myself for a day (or a weekend) and just get it all out. But I have to say that the choice to stay as grateful as I possibly can have definitely changed my life for the better. And the universe has granted me so much more of what I’ve asked for too.

So make the choice to make the most out of your life. Smile, stay positive and grateful! Allow yourself to be sad and angry too, but don’t stay in that negative space. You might find inspiration there, but it’s not where the magic happens ❤️

Love you my dear lovelies!

What I Have Learned From Pain

A lot of people have a very strong fear of the feeling of psychological pain, and that is completely understandable. Other have a craving for it. I wouldn’t say that I fall into either of the two categories.

I don’t particularly enjoy the hurt, but whenever I come across it, I choose to be very mindful of the pain. It’s not the same as wallowing in it, or making it into a bigger deal than it is. It is about being open to the lessons that are there to be learned because of the pain. It’s about daring to say: You know what, I’m not okay, but that’s okay too!

In a lecture by Alan Watts, he talks about how there is no wrong way to feel because feelings are something that comes to you, and that happens (very often) without your ability to control it in that very moment. You can control how you choose to act on it, and thereby shift your path into new ones that will come with other emotions, but what you are feeling is a 100% true to you. I really like that way of thinking, and I believe that kind of mindset is a way to be very mindful of your emotions.

Don’t shut them out. Don’t hide them. And don’t be embarrassed by them. Meet them at the door and instead of telling them to leave, ask them why they have come. Ask them what they can teach you, and how you can grow from it ❤️

That is what I have learned from my painful experiences; that no matter how much it hurts or how hopeless everything feels in the midst of it all, I always come out on the other side as a stronger and more aware person. Through all of the experiences, all of the emotions (good and bad) and all the people I meet, that is the way that I grow. And if there’s one thing that I will always strive for, it is to continuously grow for as long as I get to wander this earth❤️

I’m So Sorry!

I know I talk to you all the time, and we share everything. But sometimes, there are things that I forget to tell you, and things I forget to do.

I don’t tell you that you’re beautiful every day…

I should! Because you are, even when you don’t think so. Even when you don’t feel like you are. Don’t believe anyone who tells you differently!

I don’t give you enough credit for all the hard work you do…

I know you work your ass off, and try to fit more hours in a day, even though you know you can’t. You’re a powerhouse of creativity, and all your hard work is going to pay off soon. You’ve already noticed that things have started to change, haven’t you?

When you’re down, I don’t always offer the loving words that you need to hear…

Which is a shame, because it is in those moments that you truly need me to say them. In many ways, I’m the only one you need to hear them from. Sometimes, those words are all that matters.

Sometimes I forget to give you space…

I know I can be demanding and sometimes I encourage you to do things, even when you don’t really have the energy to. I will try harder to remember that you need time to breathe and to relax.

I even put the whole world on your shoulder from time to time…

I will try not to. No one is strong enough to hold it all at once, not even you!

Truth be told, I don’t always believe in you…

That’s utter bullshit, and I’m so sorry! You’ve proven me wrong, over and over.

I scare you sometimes…

From time to time, I forget how fragile you can be. I forget to handle you with care in those moments. I tell you stories that has yet to come, and I can sense that they scare you out your mind sometimes. I really shouldn’t do that. Together we should prepare ourselves for likely outcomes, not be terrified of unlikely maybes.

I don’t tell you that I love you…

As often as I should!

This is the one thing that I regret the most, and I offer my sincere apology for that awful mistake. I will never be perfect, and there will be more apologies in the future, but never doubt my love for you!

Because I will always love you, even when it doesn’t seem like I do.

– Self Love 

 

 

Keep the real ones! Let go of the wrong ones!

Listen to his words. Take a moment and think about it. Then go through your list of friends and delete whoever isn’t a positive input to your life. 

Think Differently – Positive You

I just watched an amazingly inspiring and eye opening video made by David Foster Wallace Literary Trust. I will include the video at the end of the post for you all to see.

The video is about how we choose to think when it comes to the things that bores and irritates us in our everyday life. I felt like I could relate to exactly this. We go through so many routines and tiny problems in our everyday life that spoils our day because we choose to let it.

Growing up is not easy and we learn about it all bit by bit as we go. To be a positive person is not something that you born as, it is a choice you make. You choose how you want to look at the little things that happen in your life. In the video they have a brilliant example that takes place at the super market after a long day at work. How we let ourselves get carried away into that negative place by all the little situations that surround us, and how we should look at it. To know that even though it feels like the whole world revolves around you, it really doesn’t. This is a hard concept to really grasp. To be able to put completely let go and put yourself in someone else’s position is not easily done. But to be able to look at things from a different perspective we really have to try and do so. The things that annoys us in other people might have a perfectly good explanation. We all have a past and a story, often these are untold and not something we wave around for complete strangers to see. Just think about it. The days that you are in a really bad mood caused by a break up, sickness or maybe something completely different, you will behave a little different. Maybe you won’t give that extra smile to someone. Maybe you will answer somewhat rude to a question not even knowing that you’re doing so. The ones around you that doesn’t know what is up with you might let that annoy them and that is the essence of what I’m writing about here.

I’m not telling you to broadcast all of your problems (it will probably not make it any better) or to not let anything get to you (because it will) but I’m encouraging you to not let it ruin your day. Be positive. Choose to think positive. And look at the world a little differently. We only get one life and it is a hard, lovely, complicated and mysterious one. No life is alike, no mind alike. See the beauty in the little things and try to make the most of every day.

This is the only life you will get! Make the most of it!

And don’t forget to smile!