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Single with Love!

‘I know you enjoy being single and all, but don’t you miss love?’

She looked at me with judgemental eyes that were way easier to read than she probably wanted them to be.

‘Who says I don’t have love?’

When did not being in a relationship automatically become the same as lonely and without love? Just because I don’t share my rent with another person, suddenly I have no love in my life?

What a load of bullshit!

I’ve been single for almost a year now, and during that period of time I’ve met some amazing people. I’ve shared time and love with both men and women. Some are still in my life and some not. But they all have one thing in common; They’ve added something new to my life. They’ve helped me grow as a person. And through getting to know them, I also got to know myself a little better.

I have people in my life who’ve been there for many years. Friends I can’t even picture my life without. My best friends are my soulmates. The ones that I call when I need a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with or just to be distracted from my own thoughts. They are part of my roots, and no matter how far my lives branches stretch, they will always be connected to the those exact roots. Sometimes branches snap, but that doesn’t mean that they’re permanently broken. Over time a new branch will grow, and it will take a different shape than it had the last time around, but will still carry forth the most amazing leaves.

Some people didn’t stay around for that long. Some because they didn’t want to. Some because they couldn’t. I still love and miss them all. Because love is so much more than sharing your bed and your bills. Love is about connecting with people. It’s about growth and about being present.

Have I gotten my heart broken? Sure! Many times. Do I still love them? Absolutely!

The love might not be the same as it was, but it still lingers, like a distant memory. Because even if our relationship might change, it still contributed to my life and to the way that I love.

The beauty of cracks in a big heart is that even though it might bleed, the sunshine and warmth have more openings to enter through. I choose to be grateful for the love that I’ve experienced.

We fear the word love for being something that changes everything, but should we?  It’s been a long time since I feared the word love. Maybe I just love differently? Maybe it’s because I don’t believe in love being reserved for “the one”?

I like to say that I have too much love to give, for me to sit around and wait for one recipient. Because it’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all!

So to all of you wonderful people who’ve made my life to what it is today:

I love you! 

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Needless Worries!

There are so many things that we choose to worry about that are in so many ways meaningless. Yes! I wrote choose, not because I think that we want to worry about these things, but because our mindset isn’t right. We tend to focus on the problems that life can bring instead of all the joys it offers. I’ve thought a lot about this the last couple of days and there are way too many worries to put them all into one post, but let’s set things straight with a few of them.

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What if he/she doesn’t like me for who I really am?

I’m guessing most of us have thought just that at some time or another in our lives. We’ve met that special someone that spellbinds us and we so desperately wants to be the person that they want so we choose to alter the way that we act, dress or do things. We adapt ourselves to a potential partner for a potential that (when you really look at it) doesn’t exist at all, even though we want it to.

The simple truth is this: If he or she doesn’t like you for who you are, then you two aren’t meant to be together! It really is as simple as that!!

But I know that love is a little devil that likes to take us on a rollercoaster and sometimes surprises you by making it end up in the house of horrors, but we need to try to see things differently even in Cupid’s haze. We talk about looking for love and wanting all these different qualities and for some reason when we find that person that has a lot of them we tend to overlook everything else about that person that might hold all the warning signs and proofs that it wont last. We enter a fairytale state where we are in love with being in love and the reality of it all doesn’t hit us until it’s time to crash and burn.

Be yourself, look for a person that likes you for you and don’t settle for anything else!

I don’t have time to do the things that I love!

So you love singing, writing, photography, making movies, building model airplanes or drawing? You have a passion or a hobby that warms your soul and stimulates you creatively but you just can’t find the time for it?

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but if you love it that much (same goes for dating and relationships) you make the time!!

Set your priorities right! Turn off the TV, put away your smart phone, decline that party invitation and do the thing you love. I know it can be tough to do this. Some days are long and demanding and when you get home you just want to sit down and watch some crappy TV show, but when you think about it that doesn’t really do much for you, does it? Think of how much joy and excitement you get from doing the things that you love!

Can we agree that the feeling that gives you is a way better ending to a rough day than watching what’s happening in the life of the Kardshian’s?

What if I fail?

You’re going to..

I know that sounds pessimistic, but it really isn’t. Look at all the great names in history and you will see that none of them got to where they were without failing more than once. Failing is a way of seeing the things that we need to change. It’s a motivation to keep on trying and to try even harder.

Everyone will fail and fall down, but does who succeeds are the ones who get up and keeps on going!

Be that person!

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I could go on and on and on, but I’m not going to. I think you already get the picture! We need to be the change that we want to see in other people. We need to follow our hearts and not our worries!

Follow the love. The love for what you do. The love for a person loving you as who you are. The love of your goal.

Any kind of love really, as long as it is real true love!

Bilde tatt 25.01.14 kl. 15.07 #2

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